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Character Building

At Mercy’s Door we strive to show excellent character qualities to our children. Our children learn by sight and example.   Is Character something we are born with? Is it in our DNA? Or is it learned and encouraged? The Greek word for character is a word that means “to engrave, to cut, to mark, to scrape.” Hence, the implication seems to be that “to mark” or “to cut” means repeated striking.   Mercy’s Door believes in showing mercy but mercy that carefully and cautiously loves our children through their circumstances and consequences while creating stability in their lives.   Mercy’s Door has taken from several different sources of behavior modification plans and integrated them into what we call Family Character Building…One Good Habit at a Time. All rule violations are identified as Mild, Serious, Major, or Extreme. At the beginning of each day the child on restriction has the choice to draw 2 Good Habit Cards and upon completion of the cards he is off of restrictions for the rest of the day. All cards promote Independent Living Skills, Academic skills, and are linked to the violation. Each card will takes 20-30 minutes to complete. All rule violations are linked with a character quality. (Ex: no stealing would be matched with Virtue. Stealing is not right and we want you to be a virtuous man/woman in your life). Each month every child is introduced to a character trait which he can earn RAK chips (Random acts of Kindness) for memorizing or displaying traits of the month’s character. The child also earns reward tokens for good behaviors. The RAK chips and reward tokens are turned into money each month at our Family Strengthening Meeting and all Random Acts of Kindness that took place by each child are announced to the children for reinforcement of the character trait of the month. Special rewards are given to the child who earned the most RAK chips. Mercy’s Door believes that discipline must be reinforced in a positive means to steer a child in the right direction to encourage, coach, and most importantly, model character traits and good habits in our own personal lives.   Monthly character qualities “Building Character One Good habit at a Time” January-attentiveness February-diligence March- gratefulness April- obedience May- orderliness June- integrity July- gentleness August- generosity September- forgiveness October- self-control November-virtue December-wisdom